Validation is one of the major keys to great communication. Whether it is a conversation with a spouse, child, or friend- to be willing [challenge: relinquish control of the conversation, NO premeditated outcome for the end result!] to give that space of understanding with the other person opens the conversation to a new level! It does not necessarily mean you agree with what the other person is saying, it\’s more of a step inside of their experience.
Validation takes you deeper into your partner\’s shame, fear, and struggles. It\’s that extra boost of understanding to fully share the experience that your friend needs you to understand. It\’s a commitment~ to help you to make sense of those closest to you. When the experience is REAL within YOU– the words will flow from you effortlessly. Be open to validate. It\’s the key to bringing a surface relationship to a deeper level of communication. Those around you will feel safe with their feelings, and as the VALIDATOR- the level of compassion for those around you WILL grow. So, all I can say is: VALIDATE.
Who will you begin to validate in your life?