The most respectful thing you can do for someone: is to give them space. What does the term \’making space\’ mean? Give them space to live, enjoy their time, and most importantly: be free. It\’s a form of relinquishing the NEED to be in control(over a person in this situation). Let go. You have to let people live their life THEIR way. When you tell someone what they can or cannot do something…Do you know how silly that sounds?
This is where self-work becomes crucial. You will begin to work on what HEALTHY boundaries will feel like for you. When you let your emotions become negative, angry, or stressed…REMEMBER what is causing that? Your thoughts. What are you THINKING about that is causing you anger, disappointment, etc. How do people lose control when upset? They lose control when they don\’t HAVE CONTROL of their thoughts. Feel your feelings, as painful as they are sometimes. You will discover so much about yourself, even when in pain over situations…You WILL grow, even with the uncomfortable anxiety(hang in there) will get easier as you have control of your thoughts! Becoming aware of your thinking will(hopefully) become more positive- because I\’ll remind you: that\’s where you need to have \’kind\’ self-talk.
I don\’t want to control anyone, I don\’t want anyone to control me(and what I can/cannot do). I want everyone around me to enjoy THEIR life. Remember, those people may NOT always be in my life when you let them go, because you will have boundaries. You have respect for yourself. Let them know what your boundaries are as you go through your personal growth. They will decide for themselves if they want to keep their place in YOUR life. Just because you \’make space\’ for someone, doesn\’t mean things will work out the way you had hoped. Be prepared for whatever the outcome may be…discover that your thoughts will need to be ready- in case of disappointment, etc. YOU control YOUR thoughts, be kind. The right friends AND family will gravitate to you, they will respect, understand, and show compassion. Remember: YOU CANNOT CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE. You will discover life is so much more enjoyable when you give people around you the space they need, and you? Go on living your badass life!
Does making space for someone give you the anxious feeling that you will not be able to control the outcome? Congratulations, that feeling is NORMAL- let go of those thoughts and focus on what you want from life and others. Remember, often times trying to control a situation will leave you in a worse predicament(your loved ones will back away from your need to control them AND you don\’t have your thoughts ready for any of it) \’Let people do people things, and you do you things.\’ Life is great! Enjoy it your way, and let others do the same.